Vent.
Hey guys,
So I've been super stressed and overwhelmed lately and felt like writing would be the best way for me to vent. As I mentioned in a previous post, I'm hosting the first annual Bhangra State of Mind competition in Sacramento, California on November 9th. I was actually really excited until I realized how much work I need to take care of before my trip. The script writing, the work from all of my classes, the packing, filming my intro video and something else which I'll write a separate post about soon, it really starts to add up. Don't get me wrong I'm still super excited, but I wish it could just be November 8th so I can get on that plane and be away from everyone on the East coast, even if it's only for 3 days. One issue that's been stressing me out is one (or two) things. My parents. Although my dad's always been pretty supportive considering he's in the same field, of course every brown dad (or any dad in general) fears for his daughter traveling alone, specially for the first time. When booking my flights I guess my dad had a panic attack or something because he flipped out about me traveling alone. He claimed that according to protocol they should be paying for one parent to come with me. I understand that I'll always be his little girl but according to the US government and the rest of the world, I'm an adult. Gotta let me do my own thing some time. Because of that argument I wasn't able to book my flights that night and I ended up seeming extremely unprofessional. Of course that wasn't a big deal to the organizers, who were totally chill and understood my situation, but it really bothered me. Knowing the industry and how to work with others, I don't understand why my dad didn't realize he was making me look bad. Is it just me or do some parents put up more of a front in front of others to show how "strict" they are. His theory is that if people know your parents are around, they won't bother you. That's true in a sense but it's also not professional and makes me look like I can't work on my own and that I'm a kid. Regardless I'm grateful for this opportunity and such a supporting father.
With my mom on the other hand, I feel like since I'm not becoming a doctor she thinks I'm not getting anywhere in life, which is never good. So I'm determined to prove her wrong. How do you guys deal with pressure from your parents? Do they really think that the techniques their parents used to raise them will be right to raise us? For me it's not just my parents. People in my extended family have unintentionally made comments which made me feel like crap. I know they don't mean it but the jokes make me feel as though my family doesn't even support me which is pretty sad. Anyways I'm just looking forward to this mini vacation and meeting a bunch of new people. It's the next step to following my dream. Also does anyone know how to cure a sore throat? I like lost my voice :(
For sore throat you may use "DISPRIN" stirred in water and gargle with it. Your throat should be pretty fine in few hours time. Here is a link for reference - http://www.health24.com/Experts/Question/disprin-for-sore-throat-20080212
ReplyDeleteWell for the thing as to weather parents are supportive or not, well may be not all the time but most of the time i think they are. I have started my journey onto something which my parents didnt wanted me to.
They arent satisfied about it but still they allowed me to start it and after 1.5yrs i havent been able to achieve much in materialistic way but i am still trying to achieve. what i have achieved will not be understood or felt by others ever.
Off course each person who listen to his/her heart to follow their dreams have to face many argument session.:)
The reason for arguments and dissatisfaction generally for parents is inability to see the perspective i see and it might be the same in your case. They aren't able to see things the way you look at ,they arent working or living your professional daily routine.
But i guess again the factors like society and family affect our parents when it comes down to children, dnt know why we humans are such that we need to see some materialistic or socialistic success otherwise its for nothing , its a total waste. and than you start hearing such statements - " I am telling you, you are just wasting your time. You wont be able to achieve anything like this " and when they say such things they are so sure as if they want that we should not achieve anything.
However for a dream follower its the journey and vision. For me its the experiences, rest is all fake.
Success is much required i accept but again its a concept made by humans to satisfy people belonging to category of society, family even parents.
I hope you get the strength to follow your dreams and achieve what you want to and your parents are able to understand that their kid is very special and has guts to do something which they were never able to achieve.
GOOD LUCK
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